Healthy Sex Life: Understanding Intersex

Human sex, sexual intercourse or simply human sex is the way that humans express and experience their sexuality. People engage in various sexual activities, ranging from sexual acts performed alone for various reasons, to sexual activities with another person for various reasons, for a very wide array of reasons. It is through sex that people come to terms with their own bodies. It is through sex that they come to terms with their own emotions. It is through sex that people learn to let go of things that are holding them back. It is through sex that people find the courage to accept themselves as beings worthy of love, acceptance and compassion.


In addition to the myriad ways in which people learn to let go of things that hold them back, there is also the process of coming to terms with one’s own body. This is an especially critical process for those who experience gender dysphoria or intersex conditions. For these individuals it is not uncommon to have to deal with having to live and be accepted by one’s body, especially where that body is congruent to one’s gender presentation or perceived “identity.” The process of coming to terms with one’s body can be a particularly arduous, painful and difficult process for many people. Unfortunately, there are many instances where individuals who experience gender dysphoria or intersex condition are subjected to transmisistance – the transfer of the physical characteristics of one’s desired sex to another body.

Transmispermia is often referred to and refers to the practice of “re-copulating” – that is, using another’s sperm in order to reproduce. Often, this is done when one feels there are no longer any biologically appropriate gender characteristics that are congruent with one’s self-identity. Some people are able to conceive and carry a child as a result of using another’s sperm. Others, however, find it extremely painful to have their own sperm injected into their reproductive system and then implanted within the uterus or into a fallopian tube. In these cases, the goal is often to get back or restore the normal characteristics of one’s body through the appropriate means.

When it comes to the issue of gender dysphoria, there are three main things which can lead to one having this condition. Those three things are: physical discomfort, social stigma and the expectation of pain. Let’s address the physical discomfort first; whether through verbal or physical expression, some individuals feel very uncomfortable with their own body. In addition, those who suffer from intersex conditions may endure a heightened sense of pain during sexual intercourse due to their own body’s differences from those that are expected of males. Finally, those who choose oral sex over vaginal sex may find that they are subjected to the expectation of pain, since genital stimulation can sometimes cause discomfort and soreness in the mouth.

It is important to note that those who experience intersex or those who are suffering from genital discomfort will often find a number of resources that help them understand and work through these issues. While it is important for everyone to feel good about their own body, those who have higher rates of stress and who also choose to have sexual activity on a regular basis may find that having a healthy sex life is a priority. Those who are committed to maintaining a healthy sex life may find that there are a number of things that they can do to create a happier, more fulfilling experience.

Many intersex children grow up and live happy and healthy lives. For those parents who were not able to cope with the situation and were wrongfully assigned the sex of their child, there is now hope for those parents. Thanks to new developments, intersex babies are now being encouraged to live a full and natural life just as their chromosomal gender as identified at birth does. Intersex children are no longer intersex due to medical intervention. Instead, they are considered to be a boy or girl biologically based on the symmetry of their genitals.