How Does Love Develop?
Love is a powerful feeling that fills us with joy and makes us feel like an enchantress. The word love has a complex meaning that includes “to love” and “us”. But in its most basic form, we all want to love and be loved. We can express this love in many ways: through our words to another person, through our actions, through our finances, and even through our choice of clothes.
However, the feelings of love we experience are only one aspect of a much larger picture of human intimacy. Intimacy is the other half of the equation, and it is often overlooked because we rarely stop to consider it. Intimacy is the awareness and the desire to connect with another person. Although intimacy is often thought of as the feeling of being “crushed into the mattress” by our partner, it is in truth, just as profound, of having our partner literally crushing us. The true depth of romantic love lies in the ability to connect with another person, and this is only possible when our connection is complete.
The goal of healthy relationships is not just to survive and thrive. Healthy relationships are committed to each other’s well being, and we choose those relationships with our partners that allow us to experience that deep sense of connection. It is not enough to simply be happy and content. To be happy and content is important, but our relationships must have other values to them. We must feel that we are loved with our entire heart, mind and soul, and that our partner feels the same about us.
Romantic love is about connecting with another person, and the ultimate source of our well-being is connectedness to God. This makes us feel energized and happy, and helps to keep us connected to one another, but it also keeps us grounded. Our physical well-being is kept stable by the energy of connecting with our spiritual or higher power. We do not just heal our bodies when we are physically ill, but the healing power of connecting with God extends well beyond our ability to heal ourselves.
Love is actually the most powerful force in the universe and it is very easy to attract to us those things we are most attracted to. Attraction is a way of life, and the more of this love that we practice, the more of this energy we can draw to us and therefore, the stronger and more well-balanced our relationship will be. Love does not happen by accident, but rather is the result of some conscious effort on our part to attract into our lives those things that will support us and make us feel whole inside. Love is the basis for a real connection, and if we are not experiencing love, there is no way that we can feel the pull of attraction and have any hope of drawing the others we love into our lives.
In short, romantic love and passionate love are the result of two things that are very closely related to each other: brain regions that process basic emotional states, and brain regions that are extremely responsive to these emotional states. These emotional states are usually referred to as “feelings”. In relationships, these feelings are usually expressed in terms of lust or sexual passion. However, if we develop more loving feelings, it will no longer be referred to as “sexual passion”, but will be referred to as “romantic love”. Romantic love is very similar to our natural desire to be loved, and therefore romantic love can be the most powerful force in creating fulfilling relationships.