The Primary Love Languages of the Human Body
What is love? What is the nature of love? These are just some of the questions that philosophers, poets and religious men have sought to answer for centuries. In fact, one could argue that all the questions regarding love are as timeless and as old as the idea of love itself.
Love encompasses a whole range of positive and negative emotional and psychological states, from the highest sublime ideal, the most loving form of romantic love, to the most mundane, most basic form of passionate love. People experience different levels of romantic love in their lives. For some people, romantic love is only a fleeting sensation, while for others, it is the only love they experience in their lives. In between these two states – the blissful experience of love for one another – lies a darker place of passionate love, with implications of pain, betrayal, rejection, and other such unpleasant feelings. The emotional states which arise as a result of experiencing this place where pain, rejection and betrayal can ensue are primarily related to brain regions which function primarily with the processing of negative emotions.
Emotions are primarily processed by these brain areas in response to events that evoke negative or pleasant emotion. This is why we respond in certain ways to the things which are very painful and unpleasant to us. We tend to either withdraw from them or embrace them with enthusiasm. The extent to which this behavior is motivated depends largely on how much our brains are preoccupied with generating feelings of discomfort or fear for a person or thing. When they are engaged in giving affection and caring for another, however, these brain regions are so busy generating positive emotions that no attempt is made to flee from or reject them.
This same thing occurs when two lovers engage in an intimate relationship. When the passion and intensity of their love are deeply felt by the lover, these same areas of the brain are so overworked that they cannot distinguish between love and lust, anger and desire. This means that the intense feelings that arise because of this love style are never given any attention. Instead, these feelings are channeled and directed elsewhere. This may make them appear to be less genuine than the other emotions which they produce, but it can also make the relationship stronger than it would have been if there had been more consideration given to building feelings of intimacy.
It is also important to understand that we all have different needs, desires. Some people have deeper feelings of friendship and emotional love than others. This does not mean that they have less real love or affection; it only means that their love may come to be focused on a shallow level, resulting in low levels of satisfaction with that which they have been involved with. It is this lack of interest in the deeper feelings of others that is at the heart of all relationships, whether they are familial romantic or otherwise. A lack of interest in the other’s feelings places these feelings in the background, rather than being a central focus, which robs them of their true meaning, as well as their true emotional and physical satisfaction.
So whether your primary love language is physical touch love or the Emotional Touch Love Language, it is important that both partners truly respect each other’s boundaries and understand where each stands on the emotional plane. It is when one partner starts to neglect or devalue the other that these relationships are at risk of crumbling. When you share your deepest feelings with your partner, it helps to solidify the bonds of the relationship – it creates a bond of loyalty and trust that is the foundation of every enduring relationship. In turn, it helps to build these strong emotional ties by ensuring that no one is able to take advantage of the other in any way (physically or emotionally). It also helps to ensure that everyone has some kind of security – and this security is most assuredly created when two people are deeply connected and committed to one another.