Love is a group of complex behaviours and feelings characterized by emotional intimacy, passion, commitment, and caring. It entails emotional intimacy, closeness, caring, attachment, protection, intimacy, and trust. Love is often associated with a wide range of optimistic emotions, such as happiness, exhilaration, vitality, life fulfillment, and joy, but it can also sometimes result in negative emotions such as jealousy, resentment, anger, contempt, disappointment, and boredom. These reactions reflect a person’s personal understanding and relationship with love and what is known as love-shyness.
One of the most fascinating aspects of love is that it activates both of your brains; your brain that knows what love is and your body that experiences the effects of oxytocin. Oxytocin is an important chemical that is released in the brain when you are in love. This chemical causes a sensation of fondness, need, desire, retention and pleasure that creates an intense bond between you and your partner or friend. This substance is the neurotransmitter endorphins.
Endorphins make us feel positive emotions and also help to relieve pain and depression, two of the common side effects of pain management medication. It is this ability to produce positive feelings in your body that makes endorphins a natural part of our brain. You may not feel the effects of endorphins unless you have been in a relationship where you have experienced love and cared for another person intensely. Even if you only experience strong positive emotions from this type of relationship, you still receive the health benefits of love.
The experience of passion in our lives, especially in passionate love relationships, is also a chemical release of endorphins. Passion in life is good for our bodies and stimulates and strengthens our muscles. You are physically healthier as you move through each moment filled with passion. In fact, one of the most powerful natural pain killers are endorphins, which help us physically and emotionally during passionate love relationships.
One of the primary effects of being emotionally unavailable is being unable to produce oxytocin. Oxytocin is the hormone that creates the bond between you and the other person. When you are emotionally unavailable, the level of production of oxytocin is diminished. This imbalance also causes several other negative effects on the body such as weight gain, anxiety, irritability, sadness, decreased sexual drive, reduced productivity and feelings of hopelessness. If you are an emotionally unavailable man, you are less likely to experience these oxytocin-emotional bonding effects and therefore will have a difficult time building these bonds.
It is important to maintain the positive emotions that are a result of experiencing love and the emotional intimacy you experience in a committed relationship. A lack of these experiences leaves both partners feeling rejected and leaves them with negative emotions. While it is very possible to have a fulfilling and satisfying relationship with an emotionally unavailable man, the reality is that his level of interest and intimacy with you is low.